When we refer to someone as arrogant, we nearly always think of arrogant as obnoxious and impossible. There can be a thin line between confidence and arrogance, but confidence can be feigned, and often arrogance is the result of an inconfident person who has tried too hard to over-compensate.
Many people on the autistic spectrum will often appear arrogant, without it being their fault at all. And depending on their level of perception, they will range from totally indifferent to absolutely mortified once they realize they have been perceived to be arrogant.
One interesting thing about arrogance is that as a fault, it is never in isolation. A person with arrogance will most likely have many intolerable flaws.
Think of someone you know who you consider to be arrogant. What are their other crimes against humanity? And are those crimes listed in the Symptoms page on this site? When I try this exercise, all the flaws in the person (or variations) are listed. For this reason I have come to the conclusion that all people who come across as arrogant to others on a regular basis (whether knowingly or not), are most likely somewhere on the Autistic Spectrum.
My mother (and probably many other people) thinks I’m arrogant. It doesn’t bother me because my thoughts were never aimed at thinking I was better than others, but only that I found something I thought was wrong and wanted to address it and for it to be made right. Essentially, it didn’t embarrass me because she’s wrong, but it did make me mad, especially since I knew she wouldn’t change her mind (and I was right about that, too).
There are too many aspie guys out there who think they’re god’s gift to woman when even I (a lesbian) can tell the straight women won’t be into them. No, I’m not saying all aspies are unattractive. I would hate to say that because I’m aspie myself. Not even saying all aspie guys are unattractive just – look in a mirror and think about your social skills before being shallow.
Traits like monologuing, not bathing, chasing after much younger hot women when you’re neither rich nor handsome, saying very sexist things – women don’t dig that.
I find it quite sad because if an aspie guy just lowered his ‘standards’ a bit, he could probably find a woman who wanted him out there. Esp if he let himself love an ND woman, I’m open to ND women myself because 1 aspie positives (a quirky intelligent woman? yes please) and 2 they’d forgive the areas where my Asperger’s makes me socially awkward.